Women are always right.....The sooner we as men accept this, the better off we will be in the long run. I promise.
No matter the situation, time, or woman....we're always wrong.
Now when I say this I hope you all don't actually think that I believe that females are in fact 100% right about everything. Wrong....Dead Wrong. I rarely think females are right about most things (Outside of things concerning their own bodies. You all can have that one....MOST times) but that doesn't mean when I get into any type of battle with a female I don't use the old adage: "Know when to Hold them, and when to Fold them." Learn this and you can live a stress-FREE life. Next time you in a debate (We're all adults here, we don't argue anymore right?...) with a female and ya'll are going back and forth, blow for blow, point counter-point...all that jazz. Stop in the middle of the conversation and say: "You know what? You're right. I'm wrong. I apologize." Now you're going to have to be able to say this convincingly because those few words can be quickly taken as you being facetious. That will quickly back-fire on you. You have to sell these words. She has to feel like she won and that you are actually admitting that you are wrong. If you can pull this off then the rest of your day will go smooth.
Now if you take that same situation with you and your lady friend. Back and forth debate (Because we don't argue right? Adults here) and you tell her she is dead wrong. Tell her that she couldn't be more wrong about the situation and even go as far as to pull up factual evidence to further prove how wrong she is, a whole different situation will occur. You'll be feeling good about yourself and she'll be just sitting there. Silent. Nodding her head in an angry defeat. Why did you have to prove her right? Now for the rest of the day she's salty about that one conversation that you all had HOURS ago. You probably don't even remember the conversation or even the fact that you Wikipedia'd her and threw the evidence in her face as you grinned and did your happy dance. You don't remember any of that....but she does. She's still thinking about it. Trying to figure out how she can still prove you wrong. Thinking about how Wikipedia isn't a credible site, thinking...plotting...For. The. Rest. Of. The. Night. Now granted you can be right all you want to...but at what cost??
Now again I'm not trying to imply that women are always right, that would just be retarded. I'm just trying to say that at the end of the day do you want a Happy woman or a Mad woman. Because no matter what you end up deciding.....You Lose. Now do you lose the discussion? Or do you lose out on that intimacy you might have gotten later on that night.
....You choose
Why So Serious?!
Jul 13, 2011
May 9, 2011
WTH is "Talking"?!
Yea so straight to the point with this blog. WTH is "talking?!" This has become an increasingly popular term with my generation and is used so frequently and loosely that personally, I have NO idea what the term even means anymore. There seems to be like 3 relationship levels (maybe even 4) that my generation currently lives by: Marriage, Boyfriend/Girlfriend, and "Talking". Everyone pretty much has a clear understanding of what the 1st two are defined as. Marriage = To death do you part...BF/GF = til I get tired of you, then we part. So what does this "talking" phase 'equal'??
I believe some would classify "talking" as the BEFORE stages of the BF/GF level. But when does it start and what does it really entail?! If "talking" was classified as two people saying: "Hey I like you, you like me....Let's see where this is going. Be it: Sex buddies, Future Relationship, Time-filler. Whatever." A lot of issues would probably be resolved.
I've heard that "talking" is the understanding between two people that they are in the stage of "courting" each other. Is that true? Maybe I don't know, but I DO know you are NOT talking to someone when you 1st get their number, can't be possible...unrealistic. I have personally seen a girl give her number to 4 different dudes while in the club, and that's just in the span of one night. Personally. It's not until you develop a consistent pursuance of someone, and its reciprocated, are you'll then considered to be "talking".
Basically make sure it's known AND the feelings are returned. It's confusing if you go around saying, "Yea we used to talk. Yea we're talking now," and the other person barely knows who you even are. Let's create a standard...how about in order to be able to say that you and "talking" to someone you have to communicate with them for at least 2 weeks and "chill" or go on at least 1 date? Is that fair?? Maybe not but someone needs to create a clear definition and tell me because it's still confusing trying to figure our WTH "talking" is!
-"Why So Serious?!"
I believe some would classify "talking" as the BEFORE stages of the BF/GF level. But when does it start and what does it really entail?! If "talking" was classified as two people saying: "Hey I like you, you like me....Let's see where this is going. Be it: Sex buddies, Future Relationship, Time-filler. Whatever." A lot of issues would probably be resolved.
I've heard that "talking" is the understanding between two people that they are in the stage of "courting" each other. Is that true? Maybe I don't know, but I DO know you are NOT talking to someone when you 1st get their number, can't be possible...unrealistic. I have personally seen a girl give her number to 4 different dudes while in the club, and that's just in the span of one night. Personally. It's not until you develop a consistent pursuance of someone, and its reciprocated, are you'll then considered to be "talking".
Basically make sure it's known AND the feelings are returned. It's confusing if you go around saying, "Yea we used to talk. Yea we're talking now," and the other person barely knows who you even are. Let's create a standard...how about in order to be able to say that you and "talking" to someone you have to communicate with them for at least 2 weeks and "chill" or go on at least 1 date? Is that fair?? Maybe not but someone needs to create a clear definition and tell me because it's still confusing trying to figure our WTH "talking" is!
-"Why So Serious?!"
Apr 16, 2011
Signs of a 'Choose'
I was going to write a post about how to know or how to figure out the signs of a woman when you first interact. But then I thought: .....Females are way too complicated and secretive for that. Most females don't want you to really know their signs anyways because they want it to be some mystery or struggle. Point Blank, most females just want a guy to come up and approach them. (But if it where that easy then most guys would just feel free to walk up to any female and ask them for everything!...and I mean everything lol.) As a guy you have to know going in....she might play the crap outta me right here....
...so instead I chose to speak about something that I understand a little more. Signs that a GUY will read from a woman to know he's being chosen. Granted, there are times when females might do these things and honestly might not be interested in the dude at all. But to that I say: Stop doing these things and I promise you'll have less guy confusion in your life.
1. The Double Take "Choose". So you chilling with your boys. You'll are out a lil lounge spot, laughing, joking having a good time. A bad woman walks by and you'll make eye contact. You smile, she smiles, innocent interaction. But if she breaks eye contact and tries to take a secret second look....she chose. Never let a guy see the double take because we automatically put that in the "choose" category.
2. Extended Dance "Choose". So you're in the club dancing with a female to one of your favorite songs. After a songs or two normally the routine is you separate, you go about your way and you enjoy the rest of your night. Sometimes you have those situations where a normal dance turns into a marathon of slow grinding, reggae twirking, and line-dance two-stepping and when that happens....she 'choose'. Personally if I see a girl dance with a guy for more than 3 songs I assume she's "interested" in that guy.
3. "...next time" "Choose". This "choose" is basically when you're conversing with a female, casual converstation, friendly converstation. In the midst of the conversation she mentions a future interaction between you'll. "Yea so next time you should do this, or we can do this." Instantly she's letting you know she wants. If a female that has never met you or had a real conversation with is already planning future events with you.....yea she wants you.
-"Why So Serious?!"
...so instead I chose to speak about something that I understand a little more. Signs that a GUY will read from a woman to know he's being chosen. Granted, there are times when females might do these things and honestly might not be interested in the dude at all. But to that I say: Stop doing these things and I promise you'll have less guy confusion in your life.
1. The Double Take "Choose". So you chilling with your boys. You'll are out a lil lounge spot, laughing, joking having a good time. A bad woman walks by and you'll make eye contact. You smile, she smiles, innocent interaction. But if she breaks eye contact and tries to take a secret second look....she chose. Never let a guy see the double take because we automatically put that in the "choose" category.
2. Extended Dance "Choose". So you're in the club dancing with a female to one of your favorite songs. After a songs or two normally the routine is you separate, you go about your way and you enjoy the rest of your night. Sometimes you have those situations where a normal dance turns into a marathon of slow grinding, reggae twirking, and line-dance two-stepping and when that happens....she 'choose'. Personally if I see a girl dance with a guy for more than 3 songs I assume she's "interested" in that guy.
3. "...next time" "Choose". This "choose" is basically when you're conversing with a female, casual converstation, friendly converstation. In the midst of the conversation she mentions a future interaction between you'll. "Yea so next time you should do this, or we can do this." Instantly she's letting you know she wants. If a female that has never met you or had a real conversation with is already planning future events with you.....yea she wants you.
-"Why So Serious?!"
Apr 2, 2011
What is a 'Hoe'?!
This post is inspired by the thoughts, conversations, and experiences of me and my line brothers. Probably some of the realest group of individuals I've ever met in my life (Yea I said it). Anyways in the midst of one of my conversations wit tha LB's we entered an epic debate about....women. Surprised? I didn't think so. Anyways there is huge misnomer about women and the definition of a 'hoe'. What is a hoe? Can we call women hoes? Should we label women 'hoes' if deemed appropriate?
Most of my generation has deemed a 'hoe' as a person that has a large number of sexual partners. "Oh she said she had sex wit ____ people?!" "Yea she's a hoe man." Personally I don't believe that is what makes up a 'hoe'. Granted I definitely wouldn't talk to a girl with triple digits or as many partners as there are states in America, but a 'hoe' is not solely determined by a number.
A hoe is someone who has no regards for who she's having a sex with. She could only have ever had five sexual partners and out of those five, three of them were friends or in the same clique....she could be considered a hoe. If she had sex with roommates, she most likely is a hoe. If every dude she has sex with is in a relationship, that she's aware of, then she's hoe. Point Blank.
Pretty much anything else is people's personal standards of the opposite sex.
And for any females reading this post. Being a hoe is just a state of mind, you can be reformed it just takes some time! You can make it! and no there is no double standard on a guy vs. a girl being a 'hoe'. The only difference is that men accept being called a hoe. Some dudes actually relish the term. Now there is a double standard on the social acceptance of a guy being a hoe, BUT that doesn't change the fact that the term fits. *shrugs* not fair but true.
Why So Serious?!
Most of my generation has deemed a 'hoe' as a person that has a large number of sexual partners. "Oh she said she had sex wit ____ people?!" "Yea she's a hoe man." Personally I don't believe that is what makes up a 'hoe'. Granted I definitely wouldn't talk to a girl with triple digits or as many partners as there are states in America, but a 'hoe' is not solely determined by a number.
A hoe is someone who has no regards for who she's having a sex with. She could only have ever had five sexual partners and out of those five, three of them were friends or in the same clique....she could be considered a hoe. If she had sex with roommates, she most likely is a hoe. If every dude she has sex with is in a relationship, that she's aware of, then she's hoe. Point Blank.
Pretty much anything else is people's personal standards of the opposite sex.
And for any females reading this post. Being a hoe is just a state of mind, you can be reformed it just takes some time! You can make it! and no there is no double standard on a guy vs. a girl being a 'hoe'. The only difference is that men accept being called a hoe. Some dudes actually relish the term. Now there is a double standard on the social acceptance of a guy being a hoe, BUT that doesn't change the fact that the term fits. *shrugs* not fair but true.
Why So Serious?!
Mar 27, 2011
Childhood Church Memories #1
Sitting in service and I can't help but think about my early years growing up in the church. I don't feel bad about blogging right now because at least it revolves around church and not how much fun the club was last night. I do get some credit for that right?... Besides I can't get with the pre-recorded announcements with the background elevator music. *shrugs*
Sitting here listening to this deacon reminds me of my old-school southern church. I don't know what it is about southern ministers but they all have the same exact voice! When I was younger it didn't matter how much sleep I got. As soon as I heard pastor's voice I was out!
And I mean out, knocked out, comatose out. And I never understood why, and I always got in trouble. Always. I felt like I was being set-up! My old pastor had the most monotone voice ever created UNTIL he got to the end of sermon. I know the end of every one of his messages dating back to age 4. Seriously......Seriously.
Okay Pastor's speaking...
Why So Serious?!
Sitting here listening to this deacon reminds me of my old-school southern church. I don't know what it is about southern ministers but they all have the same exact voice! When I was younger it didn't matter how much sleep I got. As soon as I heard pastor's voice I was out!
And I mean out, knocked out, comatose out. And I never understood why, and I always got in trouble. Always. I felt like I was being set-up! My old pastor had the most monotone voice ever created UNTIL he got to the end of sermon. I know the end of every one of his messages dating back to age 4. Seriously......Seriously.
Okay Pastor's speaking...
Why So Serious?!
Mar 26, 2011
What Is On Time?
So I'm sitting in the car on the way to my Regional Convention in Raleigh, N.C. Figured I'd get a quick blog in because I'll be in business sessions all day. Looking forward to seeing some brothers though.
Hopefully when I get there it's not over though. Of course me and my roommate are running late. And when I say late I mean HOURS late. Granted the conference is all weekend, but even if it was all WEEK I probably would still be late. Its not good, I know this, but I can't help it.
Maybe there a special gene placed in people to be on-time for stuff and I just don't have it. Like some people are always on-time for things and I feel like I have to extra prepare.
On-time Gene: "So there's meeting at 9? Okay I'll leave at 8:15."
Me: "So there's a meeting at 9? It take 15mins to get there? Okay I'll leave 8:50"
I'm trying...lol on to this conference.
Why So Serious?!
Hopefully when I get there it's not over though. Of course me and my roommate are running late. And when I say late I mean HOURS late. Granted the conference is all weekend, but even if it was all WEEK I probably would still be late. Its not good, I know this, but I can't help it.
Maybe there a special gene placed in people to be on-time for stuff and I just don't have it. Like some people are always on-time for things and I feel like I have to extra prepare.
On-time Gene: "So there's meeting at 9? Okay I'll leave at 8:15."
Me: "So there's a meeting at 9? It take 15mins to get there? Okay I'll leave 8:50"
I'm trying...lol on to this conference.
Why So Serious?!
Mar 25, 2011
Mr. Good-Morning
Every morning, like most young college students, I wake up to my regular routine: Check the time, check my txt messages, check sportcenter, check twitter. Twitter actually might be the 1st thing I check now that I think about it. You check your @ mentions, check what was said the night before, and you throw out your little good morning twets.
Usually when I check my timeline I see at least 7 or more "Just got a good morning txt from #oomf"...at least. I've grown to learn that women love that a man thinks about them enough to send them a goodnight OR a goodmorning text. Just one text message in the morning can MAKE a girl's whole day. Recently had a conversation with a female friend about good morning message and the biggest realization I made is that women don't say that want 'good morning' text messages. They want the dude they like to let them know they are still interested. A girl can get 8 'good morning' text from 8 different guys, but if it's not from that one person.....don't matter.
A female will act like she never even got the messages if it's not from that right person. As a guy that has sent a couple of mornin' text in my life there are about 3 replies you can get back....and only 1 of them is good.
1. You got your standard No Reply. This is when she rolls over, does her "regular routine", checks the phone......and sees your name. Probably shakes her head and puts the phone down. We've all been there before. You just know not to text that her anymore...
2. You get the "Aw Thanks. Good morning to you too".....end of text. This is when she's cool with you, but definitely not interested. She knows she's might see you later on that day and doesn't want things to be awkward. If some form of conversation doesn't ensue after you 'good morning' text then she's probably didn't want you textin her that early in the 1st place.
3. Three is the: one too many "smiley faces" response the "you just made my day!! :) :-D" (even though it aint even start yet); its that subtweet that she intentionally puts up right as your tweeting to make sure you see it!
So when you're not getting response #3, hey it happens to the best of us...
-"Why So Serious?!"
Usually when I check my timeline I see at least 7 or more "Just got a good morning txt from #oomf"...at least. I've grown to learn that women love that a man thinks about them enough to send them a goodnight OR a goodmorning text. Just one text message in the morning can MAKE a girl's whole day. Recently had a conversation with a female friend about good morning message and the biggest realization I made is that women don't say that want 'good morning' text messages. They want the dude they like to let them know they are still interested. A girl can get 8 'good morning' text from 8 different guys, but if it's not from that one person.....don't matter.
A female will act like she never even got the messages if it's not from that right person. As a guy that has sent a couple of mornin' text in my life there are about 3 replies you can get back....and only 1 of them is good.
1. You got your standard No Reply. This is when she rolls over, does her "regular routine", checks the phone......and sees your name. Probably shakes her head and puts the phone down. We've all been there before. You just know not to text that her anymore...
2. You get the "Aw Thanks. Good morning to you too".....end of text. This is when she's cool with you, but definitely not interested. She knows she's might see you later on that day and doesn't want things to be awkward. If some form of conversation doesn't ensue after you 'good morning' text then she's probably didn't want you textin her that early in the 1st place.
3. Three is the: one too many "smiley faces" response the "you just made my day!! :) :-D" (even though it aint even start yet); its that subtweet that she intentionally puts up right as your tweeting to make sure you see it!
So when you're not getting response #3, hey it happens to the best of us...
-"Why So Serious?!"
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